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If you feel like you are on a runaway emotional roller coaster with your partner at the controls, this book is for you! It can save you years of torment, tumult, and tears.
Discusses the potential damage of verbal abuse, how to identify a problem relationship, and how to change or leave the situation.
Practical applications and the latest clinical research are combined with the trademark support and assurance of the author in this guide that provides victims of verbal abuse the tools they need to transform their relationships. Original. 75,000 first printing.
"Patricia Evans brings you the tools you need to triumph over verbal abuse, no matter where or how you encounter it. She'll introduce you to a powerful healing process and provide: A thorough reveiw of available therapies; Strategies for dealing with abusers; Positive messages of support and encouragement; Inspiring affirmations for every week of the year"--P. [4] of cover.
In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship. He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You’ve asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men—and change your life. In Why Does He Do That? you will learn about: • The early warning signs of abuse • The nature of abusive thinking • Myths about abusers • Ten abusive personality types • The role of drugs and alcohol • What you can fix, and what you can’t • And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely “This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives.”—Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health
"You're too sensitive." "You'll never amount to anything." "You're crazy." If this is what you hear--from your spouse, your parent, your boss--then you've been the victim of verbal abuse. This insidious behavior permeates our culture--from the privacy of our own homes to the public glare of our schools, workplaces, and other institutions. But you don't have to live with it. In this groundbreaking companion to her bestselling The Verbally Abusive Relationship, acclaimed public speaker, educator and author Patricia Evans brings you the tools you need to triumph over verbal abuse, no matter where or how you encounter it. She'll guide you step by step through a powerful healing process that provides: A thorough review of available therapies Strategies for dealing with abusers Positive messages of support and encouragement Inspiring affirmations for every week of the year With Patricia's help, you'll achieve the clarity you need to build a new life--far from senseless accusations, wounding words, and confusing comments that have taken an untold toll on your psyche. You'll find validation, and learn to believe in yourself--and a better future--once more.
The purpose of this book is to provide a resource to use when counseling Christian women who are being treated in an emotionally abusive manner by their husbands. In this second edition of the book Debilitated and Diminished: Help for Women in Emotionally Abusive Marriages questions have been added at the end of the first three chapters. These are designed for the emotionally abused woman as she seeks to know the Lord and apply the principles suggested in the book. Those counselling such women will also find the questions helpful. Praise for The Emotionally Abusive Husband "Well-balanced, biblically sound, and user-friendly. A practical tool that avoids extremes to determine the possible status of abuse. Every biblically oriented counselor needs to have this book available. Anne provides direction to further additional dependable biblical resources to assist with addressing the issue of abuse." Dr. Howard Eyrich, Director of Biblical Counseling D.Min Program, Birmingham Theological Seminary, USA "Anne addresses one of the most overlooked sin issues in her book and uses her vast experience in discipleship and biblical counseling to minister to women broken by emotionally abusive marriages. The book is designed to provide biblical insights for women who are struggling in emotionally abusive relationships and for the churches that want to help them....I look forward to using this book with my counselees." Shannon Kay McCoy, MABC, ACBC. Biblical Counseling Director, Valley Center Community Church, CA, USA; Council Member of the Biblical Counseling Coalition; and author of Help! I’m A Slave to Food "Emotional abuse can often seem to be a vague concept, but in her book Anne gives a clear definition and description. She also provides specific ways for the victim to understand what’s happening and how to respond biblically....A very helpful book for biblical counselors." Don Roy, D.Min Training Center Director, Institute for Biblical Counseling and Discipleship, Slidell, Louisiana, USA "Here is a resource that seeks to restore dignity to abused women through total immersion in relevant scriptural truths...Anne’s approach is thoroughly biblical, sensitive, and practical." Jane Kratz, Pastoral Care Counsellor, Kommetjie Christian Church, Kommetjie, South Africa; Vice-Chairman of Biblical Counselling Africa. "People present us with many challenging situations. All of which require a theological understanding and applying biblical wisdom...I am thankful for Anne providing us with a much-needed resource for helping us navigate this especially challenging situation in a God-glorifying way." Andrew D. Rogers, PhD. Executive Director, Overseas Instruction in Counseling "Helping women in abusive situations is one of the responsibilities of the local church. As Christians, we need to be equipped to know how to help. It was helpful to read a female perspective on an issue where husbands, church leaders, and brothers in Christ, need to do so much more. This book is an excellent resource to think through the subject biblically so that we can be better informed and more fully equipped to offer God-honoring support." Alasdair McPherson, Bible teacher
How this book can help you This book is a resource which provides insights into what emotional abuse looks like across a spectrum of relationships. It considers how someone with an abusive way of thinking tends to operate. The book does not cover physical or sexual abuse but is designed to give some key basic information. It would be helpful if other people would take these insights and explore biblical answers for helping them in an in-depth manner. The author's hope is that this book will help open this discussion. Praise for The Emotionally Abusive Mindset The Emotionally Abusive Mindset is written from the heart of a seasoned biblical counselor, Anne Dryburgh. The third book in her Overcoming Emotional Abuse series dives deeper into recognizing the mind frame of the abuser and the victim in various relationships. Her insights evoke a depth of discernment coupled with understanding and sympathy for those caught in the destruction of emotional abuse. This book will help pastors and biblical counselors obtain the biblical acumen to recognize abusive relationships and give sound counsel that produces a transformational change in Christ. Shannon Kay McCoy, Certified Biblical Counselor, Biblical Counseling Director, Valley Center Community Church, Council Member of Biblical Counseling Coalition; Author of Help! I’m A Slave to Food In an engaging and truly readable style, Anne manages to present complex issues in an accessible way. Anne explores what an abusive mindset actually looks like, not just in clear definitions, but through examples and story. The second part of the book is especially helpful, showing that in Christ there is true hope for everyone. But Anne does not leave this hope as some ethereal aim, rather she grounds it in real and practical ideas. As with the other books in this series, it will prove to be a valuable resource for both professionals and non-professionals alike, as well as providing victims – and perpetrators – of abuse a guide as to how to live out a truly godly life. Simon Marshall, International Director, European Christian Mission For a concise, biblically focused response to emotional abuse, this is your book. Anne Dryburgh aptly presents various expressions of spousal, parent, sibling, disabled, spiritual, and elderly abuse. Then, navigating with biblical skill in a complex arena, she identifies common well-intentioned behavioral and spiritual mistakes and debunks the misuse of Scripture. Based upon the relational, functional, and substantive callings of every believer, which are carefully explained, The Emotionally Abusive Mindset champions the choice to honor God rather than yielding to an abuser’s desires. This book packs a powerfully hopeful worldview into 100 pages! A helpful tool for abuse survivors and their counselors. Sue Nicewander Delaney, MABC, ACBC Anne has done it again! Her writing is perspicuous, theologically accurate, and practical. If you think you might be being abused by a boyfriend or girlfriend, a spouse, or a spiritual leader this small book may help you confirm or disconfirm your perception. If you are a pastor or counselor wondering if you are dealing with a case of abuse, or if an elder or deacon has an abusive mindset, Anne can come to your rescue. Howard Eyrich, MA, ThM, D.Min, Director of Doctor of Ministry Program, Birmingham Theological Seminary, USA
“Every woman who is struggling to understand the mistreatment she is experiencing in her relationship should begin by reading [this] wonderful book.”—Lundy Bancroft, author of Why Does He Do That? What do you do when the one you love hurts you? Have you been searching for answers to difficult questions about your relationship? Do you feel confused about why your partner seems loving one moment and angry the next? Summoning the courage to ask these challenging questions can seem daunting. You know something is wrong in your relationship, but you are not sure what. If you are beginning to wonder if you are experiencing abuse, this book can offer you support, information, and, most of all, hope as you look for answers. Written by two women with a wealth of experience supporting victims of abuse, When Love Hurts introduces exercises and resources to help you make sense of your relationship, addressing all forms of abuse, including verbal, emotional, financial, sexual, and physical. This practical guidebook is a supportive and nonjudgmental friend to those who don’t know where to turn and is filled with stories from women who have been in the same position. By drawing on your own wisdom and that of the many others who have shared your experience, When Love Hurts can help you find the answers you have been looking for.
