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As many as one in six boys are the victims of sexual abuse. That fact is often met with disbelief and denial. This book is written for victims, as well as educators and others who wish to know more about the recognition and results of childhood child abuse.
More than one in six boys in the United States is sexually victimized by the age of 16. Yet in the growing professional literature on child sexual abuse, few books focus specifically on the experience of victimized boys and men. This much-needed volume examines how sexual betrayal affects boys and the ways they carry this hurt into adulthood. Blending psychoanalytic understanding with insights from trauma-oriented theory and practice, Richard B. Gartner presents effective strategies for meeting the unique therapeutic needs of men with sexual abuse histories. Filled with evocative clinical material, the book draws readers into the direct experience of these clients, the therapists who work with them, and the constantly shifting relational world they inhabit.
How are sexual abuse survivors to overcome the challenges they are sure to face? Finding strength in community with other survivors is one key to recovery. In Not Quite Healed, two survivors join forces to share insight and encouragement on the issues that challenge them most. After a candid discussion about each issue, the authors provide a self-affirming statement that men can study, memorize, and recite on their darkest days.
Imagine if we treated broken hearts with the same respect and concern we have for broken arms? Psychologist Guy Winch urges us to rethink the way we deal with emotional pain, offering warm, wise, and witty advice for the broken-hearted. Real heartbreak is unmistakable. We think of nothing else. We feel nothing else. We care about nothing else. Yet while we wouldn’t expect someone to return to daily activities immediately after suffering a broken limb, heartbroken people are expected to function normally in their lives, despite the emotional pain they feel. Now psychologist Guy Winch imagines how different things would be if we paid more attention to this unique emotion—if only we can understand how heartbreak works, we can begin to fix it. Through compelling research and new scientific studies, Winch reveals how and why heartbreak impacts our brain and our behavior in dramatic and unexpected ways, regardless of our age. Emotional pain lowers our ability to reason, to think creatively, to problem solve, and to function at our best. In How to Fix a Broken Heart he focuses on two types of emotional pain—romantic heartbreak and the heartbreak that results from the loss of a cherished pet. These experiences are both accompanied by severe grief responses, yet they are not deemed as important as, for example, a formal divorce or the loss of a close relative. As a result, we are often deprived of the recognition, support, and compassion afforded to those whose heartbreak is considered more significant. Our heart might be broken, but we do not have to break with it. Winch reveals that recovering from heartbreak always starts with a decision, a determination to move on when our mind is fighting to keep us stuck. We can take control of our lives and our minds and put ourselves on the path to healing. Winch offers a toolkit on how to handle and cope with a broken heart and how to, eventually, move on.
A Simple and Hope-filled Blueprint to Break Free from a Hurtful Childhood that May Be Holding You Back—Secret Hurts, Destructive Cycles, Buried Anger, and More Hiding inside every man is a little boy. For some this kid is healthy and strong. For others he’s insecure. Afraid. Angry. And broken. This describes Patrick Morley. Successful entrepreneur and businessman, Patrick ignored the pain of his childhood wounds for decades. This book tells his story and offers a surprising remedy. An ironclad promise of wholeness. Today, millions of men are suffering silently and not breaking the cycle because they’ve never processed the pain of their father and mother wounds. Does that describe you? If so, you are not alone. And there’s hope. A better way. You can find healing and finally break free from a lifelong cycle of pain and smoldering rage. You can, by God’s grace, re-write the script for your future and achieve so much more. Can you imagine? In From Broken Boy to Mended Man, Patrick Morley describes his own revealing and healing journey and offers answers on how to safely uncover wounds that may have fueled destructive patterns for decades. This book will help you discover: How to overcome denial and acknowledge your suffering; How to find healing for your childhood wounds and break free from any destructive, dysfunctional cycles that hold you back; How to shift your perspective to have a compassionate view of your parents (even if they’re gone) and reach a place of biblical forgiveness; and How to create an action plan to help you better parent your own children so hurtful patterns are not repeated. You can move forward from unprocessed pain. Discover today how to start brand new.
Do you remember when you lost your innocence? I do... It was 1969, GRACIE MAE WILLIAMS ran through the sprinklers in her backyard. Today, one week before her sixth birthday, a terrible abuse was born. An abuse which would be called the game, would last for eight years. Creating a world to escape where the skies are pink and yellow, and happy dancing flowers move gingerly in the soft wind, Gracie would hide here in her thoughts. Hoping to hold on to what little innocence she still had remaining, her abuser would continue to follow her to even the safest corners of her dreams. Meanwhile, on the other side of the world, a young girl sold peanuts in the streets of Vietnam. An American soldier, JAXTON CARLTON WYATT would offer her a hope of better things to come. Two little girls lived seven thousand miles apart, but one day their lives would come together. Joined by a shared fate, only one would be saved. Unfolding over the course of eight years, with flashbacks that offer insight into the characters' histories, Mending Broken Wings is a work of womens fiction (based on true events) With three generations of compelling drama set in China, Vietnam and the U.S., this novel will appeal to readers of both fiction and non-fiction.
1 in 6 males will be sexually abused in their lifetime. This fact is often ignored or not believed. Heroes, Villains, and Healing is a guide to help male survivors of childhood sexual abuse understand and heal from the trauma of their past using DC Comic Book superheroes and villains. This helpful book is divided into three parts. The first is “Heroes,” which explains how some coping strategies of male survivors are similar to the archetypes of such DC superheroes as Superman, Batman, and the Flash. The second part, “Villains,” examines how other coping strategies may not be as positive, having traits and attitudes of villains such as Lex Luthor and the Joker. “Healing” is the final part, which explains how striving to live the life of a hero or a villain can be sustainable. To truly heal from childhood sexual abuse means working through the stages of healing and receiving help from a therapist or counselor. This final section includes writing exercises and examples that help male survivors know they are not alone, as they come to terms with their abuse and heal from past trauma. The book was written to help male survivors open up about their abuse, seek help, and stop suppressing their trauma through drug and alcohol abuse, or suicide.
Cy Williams, thirteen, has always known that he and the other black folks on Strong's plantation have to obey white men, no question. Sure, he's free, as black people have been since his grandfather's day, but in rural Georgia, that means they're free to be whipped, abused, even killed. Almost four years later, Cy yearns for that freedom, such as it was. Now he's a chain gang laborer, forced to do backbreaking work, penned in and shackled like an animal, brutalized, beaten, and humiliated bythe boss of the camp and his hired overseers. For Cy and the boys he's chained to, there's no way out, no way back. And then hope begins to grow in him, along with strength and courage he didn't know he had. Cy is sure that a chance at freedom is worth any risk, any sacrifice. This powerful, moving story opens a window on a painful chapter in the history of race relations.
First published in 1988, this is a collection of articles exploring the meaning of masculinity, work, at home, in politics and in love. Looking at fashion, images of black men, heterosexuality, feminism, the new man and families, it examines some of the growing uncertainties about what it means to be male today.
